some issues on love, marriage, God, life

Janet

wanna talk abt the past, present and future issue more...not philo. ones...but i really wanna talk abt it...just beco'z i'm talking w/ different fds these days, and i realise how such thought is affecting our view on love, marriage, God, and life...

my point is, we shouldn't look at either past, present or furutre alone, but we should see it as a whole...

first talk abt love and marriage...it did make me suprise to find out that i'm nearly standing alone on my view of love and marriage...put aside any christian stances...i respect marraige, and i believe that dating is the path to marraige...if i'm not going to marry a guy, then i won't start any dating w/ him...

moreover, dating is not something that used to fill in our time or bring temporary pleasure, however, so many ppl think like that, this is what i mean looking into the present only...one of my fds even asked me to lower my criteria and just find a rich simple boy who is able to accompany me all the time and play w/ me around and pay for the bill...

but i gotta say this once again, i've only one criteria: wisdom...

i look into present, and i want a boy who can communicate w/ me...present to me is not playing around, but i hope we can really share our views, i know i'm not a stupid girl, that's y i dun want a stupid man... paying bills, giving me gifts and sing K are never never important to me when i choose a boy, gifts can never buy my heart, only a person's spirituality, maturity, respect for love and life can win my heart...moreover, i also look into the future...therefore, i want someone who have the same vision as me in God, esp we've the same vision in our fuuture services in God...and hv the wisdom to obey God's order...and i also looked into the past, which i mean i want a reborn christian who hv experienced God's salvation and love...only w/ such a "past", one can fully understand what means by love...

i know my view on love and marriage is different from the others, but plz, dun try to pursuade me to change...i can't accept the concept of enjoying present temporary happiness...once i date, i expect a future of marriage...

and u gals dun need to worry abt me...i know God will prepare the most suitable way for me to go...

then...talk abt how this concept affect one's view in God...even one is a christian...such thought make us not asking what God want us to do in the future, we would enjoy in the present worship, present music, present spiritual experience...but we forgot to ask a question: why God put me here? What HE wants me to do here? what is HIS future plan for me?...even worser...such thought may lead to misinterpretation of "faith"...we just looked into the present, and never plan for the future, any planning of future would be interpreted as lack of faith...

and neglecting the past make us forgetting God's grace on us...make us forget that we're once a sinner, make us forget our mission that we should spread the gospel to people outside...

then...about the view of life...suprise to know peoples' stances in abortion, sex before marriage...

now, we seems to define a "good" life as a life w/ money...that's what my fds are all chasing for...hving more and more $$, and more and more $$...but can anyone give me an answer, how much $$ would satisfy u?...when u've 1 million, u would hope for 10 million, then so on and so on...human wishes can't be satisfy...money is important, but it's not that important that worth our life to chase for it...

many ppl agree to abortion beco'z we said that if a child grow up in a poor & a fragmented family, the child would be unhappy...however, i think that happiness doesn't depends on surroundings, but depends on whether one know how to count one's blessings...a child growing up in a rich and seems healthy family can also be unhappy...and life is full of varieties, we can't use our definition of "happy" life to kill a life...that's non-sense...every life should hv the right to live, we can't kill a life using our definition of happiness...

sex before marriage...everyone knows that there are chances for pregnancy even u've carried out many safety measures...none of the contraceptive measures are 100% safe...but many ppl still choose to hv sex while refuse to bare the responsibility of hving a child...again...we're looking into present only...we treasure the present pleasure of sex...but we refuse to bare the future responsibility...when the future responsibility did by chance happen...we choose abortion...killing life...wht a disrespect of life...

what surprise me most is: even some christians hv such thoughts...and quiet a number of my friends are hving such thoughts...feeling of standing alone...

anyway...this is a long enough entry...i just hope that when we make any decisions...we're not considering present only...and money is not the only thing to chase in our life, money never gives u happiness...only love do...so, treasure every ppl surrounding u and believe that God won't let u starve to death...

2004-07-16